Your body language tells others more about you than the words you say because it reflects who you are and what you are thinking without a filter. Body language is within your control, at least to some extent. Control starts with your beliefs and thoughts. When you let limiting beliefs take root in your mind and spin up negative stories for you, those beliefs affect your body language.
Limiting beliefs left unchecked will affect both your body language and your actions. You can control your body language by controlling your beliefs and being conscious of the way you hold yourself.
A minute may not seem like much. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter if we waste a single minute? Yes! When we get reps at wasting a small amount of time, we get great at wasting a large amount of time. Think about social media. You start scrolling for just a minute, but then one minute becomes two, and each scroll takes you deeper into the social media coma until you realize it’s midnight.
Minutes wasted during the day turn into minutes lost sleeping at night. Don’t be a walking zombie during the day, make the most of every minute you get.
Pressure is meant to catapult you forward, not to crush you. The difference lies in how you choose to view and use pressure in your life.
When a peer wants you to help cheat on a test, skip class, or consume illegal products, that is pressuring you to do something you know is wrong. You want to be liked and you don’t want to seem lame. But what’s really lame is them putting you in that position to begin with. Choose to accept the pressure as a positive by refusing the offer. By doing that, you buff your character. You get stronger in your convictions and the peer pressure becomes a positive gift.
Pressure is neutral. It is your choices which change that neutral state to a positive or a negative.
Anger isn’t any more inherently wrong than fire. But like fire, it can be destructive if it’s not kept within boundaries. You have certain rights when it comes to your anger, but those rights can be forfeited if you let your anger control you instead of the other way around. The more you control your anger, the more even-keeled you will be.
The more you can be angry without committing any of these anger rights violations, the more even-keeled you will be able to remain. And, the more even your temperament is, the better leader and teammate you will be.
Conflict is guaranteed, but our response to conflict is not. We choose how we respond when someone wrongs us or when reality isn’t meshing with our expectations. It’s important to understand conflict resolution and practice it well because it limits the damage caused to our relationships and helps us move on together. Conflict resolution teaches us when to respond, what to respond with, and how to respond.
We choose when, what with, and how we respond to conflict. Let’s be the generation that is overly generous with our forgiveness. Let’s learn to resolve conflict well, so it doesn’t cause further damage our relationships.
What type of student are you? How you answer that question will have an impact on how you reach your goals, now and in the future. There are four answers to this question: content, complicit, committed, compelled. Let’s dive in.
Content. Complicit. Committed. Compelled.